Every Dad’s Battle

February 18, 2013
Photo Credit: placbo

Photo Credit: placbo

Miley Cyrus broke my heart last week.

All four of my daughters loved watching Hannah Montana before we got rid of cable. Even after dumping cable they still watched reruns on Netflix. I have always thought the Disney channel destroys young female actresses, but I guess I was hoping deep down that Miley would be different than the many other female child stars who graced Disney.

As of the date of this blog post thousands of teens are being exposed to Miley’s barely covered bust on the current issue of Cosmopolitan magazine. While I am trying to explain the value of modesty to my four daughters, one of their childhood icons is running around baring as much as she can in the waiting lines of grocery stores all over America.

I realize, of course, that raising my daughters is not the responsibility of any celebrity. Her fame was gained from my dollar, so expecting her to maintain some kind of proper example to the girls who grew up idolizing her is not asking too much. I believe it is her duty. A way to “give back” if you will.

Maybe it’s the pressure being placed on her by society. “Stay young, beautiful and naughty” seems to be the requirement for success after years of playing innocent. I really hoped Miley would be able to find a different path than Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, Selena Gomez and Vanessa Hudgens, but it appears that the call to fame, and a long lasting singing career, cries louder than the responsibility to be a positive example to those who helped you get started.

If I were speaking to an audience of men with pre-school girls, I would advise they dump the Disney channel as quickly as possible. It’s a lot easier to hear your daughters say, “Who is that?” than it is to hear them say, “Wow, Miley looks hot.”

James Dibben


4 responses to Every Dad’s Battle

  1. James, wow, this is a tough one. I have younger ones, but I understand what you are talking about. A good friend of mine knows Miley pretty well, as well as her dad, and he said she has a bunch of bad influence around her. She is worth about $150,000,000 so I can’t imagine what it must be like in that world.

    We are very restrictive on what we allow on tv, so that part is pretty easy now, but I know we will begin to deal with other things soon, as she goes to public school and whe learns a lot from her peers.

    • Thanks for sharing your insight Jeff. I’m guessing Big Daddy Weave doesn’t pay quite as well as what Miley is used to? 😉

      Over the last few years I have just decided that God never intended humans to have this kind of celebrity. None of us have the spiritual fortitude to be a global name. The weight and pressure that go along with it is just too much for a human.

      Only God is able to handle being so famous.

      I’m certainly not blaming anyone for the choices she is making. I’m doing the best I can with my daughters but ultimately they will make their own decisions.

  2. It is a difficult one, because I agree that celebs shouldn’t be our role models, as kids or adults, but at the same time society puts them in that place and young people are impressionable and will look up to people whether we as parents want them to or not. It is especially hard when they are celebs from “kid friendly” shows on kid networks who then start acting in ways that feel irresponsible when we see them continuing to be an influence on our kids. Sadly Miley has become outspoken for issues that Christian parents will find untenable in addition to giving in to the culture of sex-sells in the way in which she presents herself.

    • I try to expose the girls to as many positive role models they can interact with every week. That’s just about all I know to do in a wold where culture has gotten so loud.