Two teenagers with big dreams. Our dreams had nothing to do with careers or possessions. Before even tying the knot Julie and I spent hours talking about the kind of family we wanted.
We never wanted to measure success by our incomes or status. Our only desire was to have a big family.
“How many kids do you want?”
“Hmm, two just doesn’t seem like enough to me.”
“Yeah, I think we should have at least 4.”
So, that’s how we entered our lives together over 22 years ago. We wanted a big family.
I think we can all agree that life rarely turns out exactly as we have planned. Just three years after getting married we decided to start building our family. What we never planned on experiencing is infertility.
Just like any other couple we expected to be able to get pregnant with little-to-no effort. This would not be God’s plan for our lives.
For three years we tried everything imaginable to start a family. We finally drew the line at fertility treatment. We just couldn’t bring ourselves to risk that kind of money on something so unpredictable. We also did not believe in discarding fertilized eggs.
Our next move was foster/adoption. We quickly moved into the world of foster parenting. We attended all the classes needed to be foster parents, and once those classes were completed we attended the classes needed to be adoptive parents.
In April of 1998 we adopted our first daughter Lydia.
In September of 2001 Elaina was born as surprise number one.
In September of 2003 Anjelia was born as surprise number two.
God did bless Julie and I with the large family we wanted. He just did so in a way we never imagined. He needed Lydia and Jessica rescued out of tough situations and He wanted us to be the tools.
In God’s amazing grace and love He still allowed Julie and I to experience child birth; not once but twice.
My name is James, and I’m just a dad trying to get it right…4 times.